Wedding Bells for Stevie

In less than a month, my little sister, Stevie, will become Mrs. Stephanie Arias-Anderson. By the way, don't you dare call her Stevie, she's liable to tear your throat out, unless you're an immediate family member, who she's completely given up on the "Stephanie Movement" with. In fact, I think I'm the only one who consistently calls her that, and, well, I always will. When we're shriveled old grannies, I'll still be chanting, "Stevie's a Fartknocker!" and making faces at her in church...you can mark my words on that one!

When Stevie was a baby, she had the most beautiful face. She had a porcelain complexion and the biggest, most gorgeous eyes you've ever seen. I still remember her laying in a pastel afghan that she received as a baby gift, and wriggling around while my dad, changed her diaper...gagging and grimacing through the whole event.

As a toddler, Stevie's love for the pacifier, which she dubbed, "the ciggy" was completely outrageous. My mother would attach brightly colored ribbons to each ciggy, in the hopes that we would be able to find them, but without fail, ciggy would get lost in the abyss and dad would be driving from Aurora to Naperville in search of a store that was open at midnight AND carried the right style of pacifier.

As a small child, Stevie was to say the least, entertaining. She developed a passion for music early, it's an Arias thing, and could be seen sitting at the kitchen table with a gigantic pair of headphones on, singing her heart out into an old microphone (which wasn't attached to anything), and making rock star faces that she learned by watching our older brother, Joe.

We grew up on a small farm, filled with random animals from ducks to horses. She would run around the farm with a pair of ridiculously tame goat kids (literally), named Whitney and Madonna. They would frolic around the farm for hours. Stevie would stop and let them eat mom's flowers, and on occasion, invite them into the house to play on mom's bed (note: mom was not happy).

When she was naughty all we had to do was tell her that the "Weyoo Weyoo's" (that was what she called cops because of the sound of the siren) were coming for her, and she would immediately stop what she was doing and start crying. Is it wrong that Joe and I laughed every time? No, no it's not.

Joe would sometimes be given the gruesome job of butchering rabbits. Not his idea of fun, but what the dad says, goes. That's life on the farm. Stevie was always curious about everything and one day decided she would see what Joe was up to. The maniacal pair, decided to gang up on the Jessi, which by the way, happened a lot. I'm sorry to be graphic, but the fact of the matter is, when you pop a rabbit over the head with a hammer (which was how we released them of their Earthly bodies) their eyes will occasionally, well, pop out. On this particular day, the eyes popped out. So sadistic Thing One gave rotten Thing Two a pair of said eyeballs to "share" with me. I was in the house, watching tv, when my sweet, innocent, little Stevie runs in, extends her hand, and reveals two eyeballs shouting, "Snake Eyes!" She then chases a screaming me around the table and back out the door. Nice, guys, nice.

As Stevie slipped into the "tween" years, she developed a nasty habit. We'll call it "Hanson". Hanson cursed the Arias clan for years. She plastered their freakish mugs all over her room, her text book covers, everything. We frequently endured long, drawn out Hanson related stories and were immersed in all the Taylor facts you never wanted to know. By the way, "Tay", happy freakin' birthday on March, 14th. See Stevie, I WAS listening. That's a piece of wasted brain space I'll never get back! I think the one that got the worst end of the Hanson obsession was dad. That poor guy had to chaperon more than one Hanson concert. It's a wonder he wasn't trampled by a herd of MMM...Bopping rabid 12 year old girls.

Teenager Stevie was a fantastic artist, had an incredible set of vocal pipes and developed a deep sense of faith and balanced it all with a quirky sense of humor and an appreciation for emo. You could hear her upstairs singing away to some thick eye-linered, 15 year old's lament about how life isn't fair as she got ready for the youth group that she was very active in.

The Stevie College Edition was a bright teaching student, with a flair for the dramatic (i.e. the Vagina Monologues). BTW, while Stevie's performance was great, the best part was watching my dad sit through it...he's not exactly comfortable with the word vagina, much less anything that any of those young women were discussing.

Stevie graduated college (woot) and became a school teacher. She's had a few interesting boyfriends over the years, but she's landed on a real winner. We're so happy that she found Erik. Not only does he look normal :) but he's got a brilliant mind and he truly loves my sister.

Now, Bride Stevie is preparing to take her vows and replace her Ms. with Mrs. I'm absolutely astonished at how time has flown by and that beautiful baby has become an even more beautiful bride.

It makes me think about my parents and my own children. My youngest isn't even 1 yet, and I know, someday I will be watching him marry the woman of his dreams, no matter how much I want to believe that I will always be the most important woman in his life.

At the end of the month, my parents are going to watch their baby take a new last name and start a totally new life as a married woman. I can't imagine what they're feeling and I can certainly wait to find out.

Stevie, I love you, but you're a fartknocker!

Pizza, and man sized rodents, and in-laws...oh my

When I was a kid there was this wonder of wonders...Show Biz Pizza. Everything was excellent from the jumpy balls to the mediocre pizza. And we loved it! Going to showbiz was like walking into a starry eyed child's version of heaven.

I grew up in an upper lower class household where we truly appreciated the simple things in life. We rarely had take out burgers from McDonald's or went to the movies. Going to a place like Show Biz only happened once every few years and it was something we had on our minds for days before and weeks after, much akin to Christmas. The only topper was a trip to Great America...yeah, I said it. Great America, not Six Flags.

But now...

My kids live in a lower middle class household where everything is taken for granted. Until I started staying at home, we had fast food several times a week (purely for convenience) and when they go to (cringe) Chuck E. Cheese, they expect to be back tomorrow. They refuse to eat the pizza because they want to go back to the games, only to walk out of the restaurant proclaiming how "hun-ga-ry" they are before they are strapped into their Eddie Bauer car seats.

The worst part...I'm responsible for that. Every parent wants more for their kids than they had. While I was growing up I often fantasized about all the cool things and opportunities my kids would have. I'm not saying that my childhood was void of all things cool, but the grass is always greener after all. But now as I'm booking my soon to be 2 year old's birthday party at Chuck E. Cheese a few weeks from now, I wonder if I'm doing them a service or not. Is it being spoiled or just the selfish innocence of youth? We shall see.

So anyway, we went to Chuck E. Cheese on Sunday. We met Brock's family there for some pizza and Coopery good times. Adult to child ratio 7:4.

Exhausting...completely exhausting. Devin (my 7 week old) spent the day being passed around by grandma, aunt, cousin, and mom. With the exceptions of diapering and bottles, he was pretty low maintenance...did I ever tell you he was my favorite :)? Kyan (3 3/4) ran from game to game absolutely fixated on pumping those precious tokens into as many slots as possible. I'm sure he was just doing his part to keep the economy afloat. Jaxon, though...DEAR GOD! Jaxon was by far the front runner in the naughty olympics. He was climbing the ski ball, crashing birthday parties and just plain running away. He even did the patented terrible two's run-turn around-look you in the eye-smile-turn and run like a bat out of hell maneuver. He used to be so innocent...and blessedly slow. When did this transformation from baby to beast happen?

All in all, chases and retrievals aside, we all had a pretty good time. It is my opinion that they need to change their slogan though, it would be more accurate if it was "Where a dad can be a kid". Between rescue missions, Brock got his game on which was a nice change. Being that I am perpetually pregnant, I'm usually sitting on the sidelines and watching him try to muster the power of Grayskull so he can recapture the boys.

At the end of the day, there were 10 Coopers who needed a nap and one baby who was rip roaring and ready to go.

So what did I learn from this experience?

1.Don't let Kyan near the tokens. 2. Wear sneakers instead of flip flops. 3. Feed the kids before we go because they aren't going to eat the pizza anyway. 4. Keep Jaxon on a kid leash. 5. 3 kids are my limit, at least for the next 3 or 30 years.

Jessi

Where to Begin...

Hello, Everyone!

I'm excited to be sharing snip-its of my crazy adventure in motherhood with a world full of people who just may know where I'm coming from...most days.

Life Before Staying Home

In a former life, a mere 2 months ago, I was a full time manager for a company that serves the day-to-day needs of adult individuals with a variety of physical and/or cognitive challenges. My job was challenging, fulfilling and different every day. There aren't many positions out there that put a smile on your face the way mine did. So why leave?

It had been my lifelong dream that should I be blessed with the privilege of motherhood, I'd be able to stay home with my children and nurture them through their growing years. Unfortunately, when the opportunity arose, and my life as a mommy began, there was no financial way for me to do it. Life changed in January of 2008 when my newspaper reporter husband was offered a position in media relations for a large scientific laboratory and his income alone was much more than our current combined salary. Still, I had been working at my company for 8 years and grew to truly love the people that I provided services for. It felt like walking away from my 2nd family. In August of '08, when that pregnancy test confirmed my suspicions, it was time to strongly consider a change. As an experienced mom, when you see those 2 little lines staring back at you again you immediately do 2 things: 1. Wipe the shock off your face and deliver the news to your husband and 2. start crunching numbers. As smoke rose from my fingertips and my husband chased my 2 older boys around it became more and more clear that by the time I paid for the childcare of 3 children, I was basically going to be working for a job title and a couple of big macs. I still couldn't commit, but around week 26 of my pregnancy, I started having complications with my pregnancy. Because of my first pregnancy, which ended in my near death, an 11 week premature son, an immeasurable loss, and the label of high risk, the doctors thought that the stress of my position wasn't good for either the baby or me. I still wrestled with the decision for a few weeks but ultimately, I felt that it was a sign that it was now or never.

So Here I Am...

So now, I'm 30, staying at home with my three sons. Kyan is a precocious 3 1/2 year old, Jaxon will be 2 in about a month and Devin just turned 6 weeks old yesterday. I expected the job to be a challenge...but nothing could have prepared me for the beautiful, awful, elating, exhausting and all too worth it roller coaster I'm riding.

In my upcoming blogs I will delve into the past, gush (and honestly, probably rant) about the present and speculate about the future. Thank you for boarding the roller coaster with me...its bound to be a bumpy ride.